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TC AVEY

Wednesday, September 7, 2016

Freedom to Choose



“ For you have been called to live in freedom, my brothers and sisters. But don’t use your freedom to satisfy your sinful nature. Instead, use your freedom to serve one another in love.” Gal 5:13 NLT

As I look at this verse I realize I have a choice in how I live in my FREEDOM.

I can choose to give into my sinful nature.

Or I can choose to love.

God gives me the FREEDOM to choose one or the other.

I know what my sinful nature wants.

It wants instant gratification.

My sinful nature is selfish, mean, and never satisfied. 

But because of the Holy Spirit given to me when I CHOSE the gift of Salvation through the cross (and there is no other way), I don’t have to let my sinful nature rule me

I can choose to live in FREEDOM and use it to serve others in love.

What would serving others in love look like?

Let’s look at 1 Cor 13:4-6 NLT,  Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.

In day- to -day life “living in love” could look like this:

1.      Not yelling at the person who cut you off in traffic.

2.      Letting someone move in front of you in line because they look like they’re in an even bigger hurry than you.

3.      Forgiving your spouse for the same offense AGAIN.

4.      Complimenting a friend on their new car instead of being jealous.

5.      Congratulating a co-worker on the promotion instead of bad mouthing them because you were more qualified. 

6.      Explaining to your kids what they did wrong instead of yelling at them.

7.      Not demanding your way.

8.      Not belittling a server for getting your order wrong.

9.      Not assuming you’re right and every one else is wrong.

10.  Admitting you don’t know everything and that you need help.

The list could go on.

There are so many ways we can live love in action.

I feel free when I show love. 

I have never regretted being kind or loving others, but I have felt the burden of walking in sin.

Because of God’s grace that forgives ALL my sins I am free to do whatever I want. 

Again, if my focus is on me, I want my natural man to feel good. I want justice, I want what I feel I deserve, I want pleasure without consequences.

But when I focus on God, at what it cost Him to forgive me (death of His innocent Son), my sinful desires diminish and I’m FREE to love others as I am loved by God (see 1 Cor 13:4-6).

It truly is liberating to not have to obey my carnal desires, but to walk in love. Knowing I don’t have to be “be nice”, but I can choose to.





Monday, August 1, 2016

Crisis is Relative



“Please keep my Grandma in your prayers.”

I glanced at him as we walked toward the Liberal Arts building where we would go our separate ways. “Of course.  Pray for my cat too. I don’t want to put him down, but I think I have to.”

His brow wrinkled.   “My Grandma is dying and you want me to pray for your cat?”

Before I could reply, he stomped off to his last class of the day.   

I swallowed the lump in my throat.  Yes, I want you to pray for my cat.   I love him.

Later that evening he called.  “I’m sorry for earlier.   I shouldn’t have said that.   Your cat is important to you, just like my Grandma is important to me.    I will be praying."

“Thanks, but you don’t need to apologize.   My problem isn’t as big as yours.”  

“Crisis is relative.   We both are hurting and need prayers. I was wrong to disregard your pain and your request.  Of course I will pray for your cat.”

“You’ve taken too many psych classes. You sound like your professors.” I joked.

He laughed, “My professors have never offered to pray for me…but you’re my sister-in-Christ, so I’ll pray for your cat…are we good?” 

“Yeah, we’re good.”

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YEARS later that conversation plays through my head as I listen to my friend rant about the injustice she’s facing.

I want to yell at her, “my grandma is dying and you want me to pray for your cat!”

But I don’t. 

Crisis is relative.

My world may feel like it’s crashing in and I don't have time for anyone else, but my sister-in-Christ needs prayers. She needs support. 

She does NOT need me to tell her to suck it up. 

She does not need me to tell her I am facing real problems and hers are minuscule. 

As Christians we are called to bear each others burdens (Gal 6:2).

I may not think she is facing a crisis, but she genuinely does. Therefore, I will take time to listen to her.  I will pray for her.  I will point her to Scripture that will encourage her.  I will love her as I am loved by God--completely and generously.   

I hope the next time you want to scream at someone, “my grandma is dying and you want me to pray for your cat” you can remember “crisis is relative”.

Be there for someone and try to hold back the judgments.  Who knows, next time it could be you needing support for a “relative crisis”.    



Monday, June 13, 2016

Entertainment & Social Media Fast: What’s It Like?



Join me today on BarbRaveling’s site as we discus fasting from social media and technology. 

Here’s a preview:

  1. Why did you decide to take a fast from technology?

Six years ago my Sunday School group read the book, “Awakening: A New Approach to Faith, Fasting, and Spiritual Freedom” by StovallWeems and decided to pray and fast for 21 days. I was pregnant and couldn’t do the fast as everyone else did, but I wanted to participate. So I decided to fast from ALL forms of entertainment and social media. This meant NO radio, TV, computer, internet, phone, tablet or even books unless it was the Bible or book by Weems.

To read more, click here.

Hope to see you there!